Heather Worley Living in St. Petersburg, Russia

Vol 3: Women's Day

Hi everyone -
This is the latest issue.  Enjoy!
 
Heather:)
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All right, last week.
 
Once again, my only Tuesday class was cancelled, due to PR week.  Apparently they needed our classroom for a conference meeting or something.
 
Wednesday I had class!  Russian and then French.  Yay!
 
Thursday I had a class, but the teacher seemed quite shocked to see six Americans who want to translate texts into Russian simply materialize the fourth week of school.  I can't blame her.
 
Friday, I had my Russian class, and then our French teacher told us ten minutes into class to go home in honor of International Women's Day, which was Monday.  This seems to make sense - after all, our class is 100% female.  So, doing the math, I had five "paras" (a para is two academic hours, which is how long one class is here), which is ten academic hours, each of which is 40 minutes long (unlike the 50-minute academic hour in the US), plus ten minutes of French - 410 minutes equals 6 hours and 50 minutes of class.  I really should complain about this to OU's Study Abroad Department.  At least next week I will be able to start on my written project.  One of the fifth-year students is doing some sort of linguisticky, Russian-English something-or-other, and I'm going to be collaborating with her one it.
 
Tatyana Yurievna told us about a horn concert on Friday night.  She said it's a unique St. Petersburg tradition, and the tickets were only 100 rubles.  She has a friend who plays in the horn choir, so she was going and told us she could meet us to show us where it is if we'd like to go.  I decided to go.  I'm trying to spend as little time as possible in the house, which is difficult when there really aren't any classes to go to and it's too cold just to wander aimlessly about the city looking at parks and monuments and puddles.  Besides, there was a farewell party for the Belgians a block away that started right after the concert would end. 
 
The concert was enjoyable, but I can see why it's a uniquely St. Petersburg phenomenon.  There was an ensemble of 17 musicians (although there can be up to 40) all playing either one or two horns (although only one at a time) ranging in size from a kazoo to an alpenhorn (those things on the Ricola commercial).  Each horn plays one note, so the effect is like that of a bell choir.  They played marches and Russian folk tunes and classical pieces by composers such as Mozart and Weber.  Unfortunately, the room was very cold, so at some moments the chords didn't quite blend due to the instruments going sharp. 
 
The emcee was incredibly enthusiastic.  In between pieces, while the musicians were trading out one horn for another, she gave us some history of horn choirs, along with some of her commentary.  Horn choir music, before its recent revival two years ago, hadn't been heard since the coronation of Nicholas II.  I don't recall the details, but they arose because some royal someone said, "we need music," and some music director said, "okay," and came up with the horn choir, and everyone thought it was really cool.  From then on, they were obligatory at big royal events.  It then fell out of style when the Communists came into power - too many capitalistic associations, I suppose, besides which, it's a rather high-maintenance ensemble.  And they failed to recognize the inherent group-mindedness of a horn choir.  The emcee feels the horn choir is a great example of Russian collective spirit, because each musician must forget about his ego and play with the group in one voice.  She talked about how it warms the heart and fills the Russian soul with pride, etc., etc.  Allison and I had a very difficult time not laughing, but it's good we managed to hold it in.  In this big, empty room there were fewer than twenty people in the audience, and the echo would have been rather frightening.  It probably would have woken up the man in front of us who fell asleep, too.
 
The emcee did tell a joke.  In the olden times of horn choirs, each musician played only one horn.  Never two.  And whatever note you start out on is the one you play for the rest of your life.  Two men who'd seen each other at horn events ran into each other on the street, but never having been introduced, they didn't know each other's names.  The first one simply said,  "Hi, C#!"  The second replies with, "Good to see you, B flat!" 
 
Okay, ne poluchilos'...so it wasn't a good joke, but it was much more entertaining than the gushing, and it gave us a chance to release the pent-up laughter.
After that, Allison and I walked over to the university the Belgians attend for the farewell party.  We could only stay until 11:00, since that's their visitor curfew, but it was fun nonetheless.  I got to see Stijn bickering with his girlfriend's sister - she'd gripe at him in Russian (even though he theoretically doesn't speak a word of Russian), and he'd snap back in English.  I got to see the rest of the Belgians again, which was quite fun.  I got to speak Russian with a French girl. 
 
At one point, Allison and I found ourselves in the middle of the room, which is the worst place to be because you're always in someone's way.  A guy walking past bumped Allison and said, "Izvinite" (excuse me), so she replied with "Nichego" (no problem), and then he said something to her in French.  She looked a bit lost, so he said in English, "Do you speak French?"  And she said, "No, but I speak English."  And he said, "Where are you from?"  "America."  "Oh, I thought you were French."  And then he continued on his way.  We don't even know where he was from...but it was rather amusing.  After all, why start with "izvinite" if you think someone's French?
 
The guy from my host mom's English class has been acting really weird lately.  My host mom has always said he's a "neobyknovennyi chelovek" (unusual person) to explain some of his more bizarre behavior, e.g. his failure to show up for five of his finals despite his obvious intelligence.  He says he's just too busy.  One would think the draft deferment for students would be incentive enough to find the time.  I think he's just a flake.  Natalya's new explanation is that he must be a gypsy - smart, capable, but refusing to be nailed down to anything, including his own education.  Something about his big brown eyes and general wildness.  "His last name is Vorontsov, a very old, very Russian name, but you never know...it seems to me there must be some gypsy blood in there somewhere."  I suppose this is the stereotypical equivalent of our saying someone has "an Irish temper." 
 
Anyway, to console me and occupy some of my free time, of which I have plenty, she decided to introduce me to Spencer, an American studying at St. Petersburg State and living with one of her friends.  She told me his program is with other foreigners, so he only hangs out with Americans, and he's out all night basically every night.  Then she called her friend and the two host moms put us both on the phone.  Unfortunately, he was sick, probably due to all the partying, so I guess we'll have to wait to invite him over for tea.  She also thought she'd introduce to a botanist friend she has, but he's currently in Moscow for some sort of botanical festival - magnolias or ferns, I forget which.
 
Russian women seem really eager to marry me off.  I really like the orange marmalade rolls in the cafe at school, but for some reason I can never pronounce "tsitrusovaya" (citrus) correctly when I want to order it.  I managed to on Friday, and the cafeteria lady said my Russian was really good.  I said maybe so, but I still need to improve a lot.  She had the perfect solution: "You can find a Russian man, and get married, and then move to Russia, and then you'll have plenty of opportunities to learn."  Ay yi yi.
 
I'm not sure why so many Russians assume that because I want to learn Russian, I want to be Russian.  Maybe because there aren't too many foreigners who really can speak Russian well, so they assume if you want to, you must have a really personal reason, and what other personal reason can a 23-year-old girl besides thinking that Russian men are really wonderful?  After all, there are Russian who women learn English so they can marry foreigners...
 
I know a lot of girls here who are dating guys they like but aren't particularly taken with, but they'll stay with them as long as something better doesn't come along.  And they think this is normal.  They don't necessarily tell their boyfriends this, but among women it's sort of understood.  Natalya told me one time that it's better if the woman isn't in love with the guy; the guy should be in love with her, that way she has the upper hand in the relationship.  That's one reason she was worried about her older daughter's marriage to the Egyptian guy - she thought Alisa was too interested in him.  This sounds really sad, but honestly, the American fairy-tale approach to love is a lot less practical, and are illusions like that really healthy?  I know so many girls my age who still think one day they will meet Prince Charming and he will make everything wonderful.  Not growing out of that just leads to disappointment, but this other approach seems to me a bit too jaded.  However, maybe it makes sense in a country where a man is economically necessary for survival and the man-to-woman ratio is perennially off-kilter.  (If Putin wants a population boom, he really should end the war in Chechnya.  Russia has had some major war, often on her own territory, basically every generation for goodness knows how long.)
 
Sunday morning I went to church again for the first time in a very long time.  Every weekend for the last two months I have either been out of town (Spain, and then Pskov) or sick.  It was good to be back.  I realize how much more of the service I am understanding than I was in September.  Now, I only have problems with isolated words, whereas in September I still didn't know the word "blagoslavit'" (bless), which comprises about fifty percent of the prayers.  There are some odd things about being in a doctrinally equivalent environment in a different language.  For example, she prayed that people would be salt and light to the world around them, and it sounded odd.  I sometimes translate things I don't understand in my head to see if I can dissect the metaphor, and in doing so I realized it was word-for-word what we say, because it's straight from the New Testament.  I guess we're so used to hearing some phrases that we don't think about what they mean.
 
(Incidentally, I wonder how this metaphor works in Russian.  The light part makes sense - people here appreciate light, because it's so darn dark in the winter.  But Russians don't really put much salt on things.  Not even on potato chips.  I ate at McDonald's, which cooks things according to the American recipes, but I've gotten so used to lower-sodium foods since I came here that after eating the fries I felt the top layer of my tongue had been burned off with a blowtorch.  Maybe they should retranslate that passage as saying "dill and light," or "sour cream and light," since that's what Russians flavor everything with.)
 
While listening to the sermon, I heard the pastor say, "Where your _______ is, there will your heart be also."  In the blank was the word "sokroyische," which I'd never heard before, but since I knew the verse, I figured it probably meant "treasure."  I couldn't find it in the dictionary later at home.  And then I realized it was "sokrovische," which means "treasure."  Russians have a really weird tendency not to pronounce "v" if it's in the middle of a word between two vowels.  It's like it's too much work or something.  So, for instance, "pravilno" (correct) is pronounced "praalno"  more often than not.  In fact, Adrianne learned this word in Russia, not even aware that "pravilno" is the real word, so when she said "praalno" in class and the teacher corrected her pronunciation, she was really confused. 
 
I've also noticed that, in most cases, you can with very little effort say an entire sentence in Russian and not move your mouth.  In fact, once I was watching TV, and the character on screen was talking, but I thought it was an off-screen character because he wasn't moving his lips at all.  And then I realized the person he was talking with was a woman, so it had to be him doing the talking.  Maybe this is why Russians are not too fascinated by ventriloquists like we are...it's just not that hard.
 
After the service we all had tea and munchies to celebrate International Women's Day , and then Allison, Sarah and I went to lunch with Elene, a girl from Switzerland who is studying at a high school here.  She knew little more than the alphabet when she first came in August, and now she can communicate.  She's one of those Europeans who speaks about eight languages and has plans to learn more.
 
Allison and I went to find some shoes after lunch.  Everything's on sale right now.  There was a sign in the store, "When returning or exchanging shoes, please have your passport on you."  Why they need this, I don't know.  But it seems that in Russia, you can't do anything without a passport.  You need them to pick up packages from the post office, change money, buy a train ticket, etc.  It's their universal identification, the way we use driver's licenses.  But to return shoes?
 
We also went to see a movie (sort of) last night.  It was the Cannes Lion Awards, given to creative advertising (TV commercials).  It was really interesting to see which commercials were popular with a Russian audience and which ones weren't.  Most of the car commercials didn't translate too well, I suppose because Russia doesn't really have a car culture.  The exception was the Honda Accord commercial with the rat-trap series of tasks made of car parts.  The American Budweiser commercials didn't go over because Russians don't really have an underlying "beer is a manly thing to drink" assumption.  None of the commercials with American football players were popular.  Other things that are sort of silly that we'd think are funny didn't work either - for instance the French Nike commercial with a guy being chased by a chicken.  Allison and I laughed alone through that one.  The "got milk" commercial didn't work.  It was a little kid following his dad around and having premonitions, a take-off, I suppose, of The Sixth Sense.  He'd say, "don't cross the street" and then a streetlamp would fall over, "Stop," and the bridge in front of them would collapse, etc.  The last scene, he says, "Don't eat the cake," and a minute later the mom rushes into the room screaming "Nooo!"  And then you see that the milk carton is empty, so there's no milk to go with the cake.  In Russia, when you eat cake you drink alcohol or tea, or at kids'parties, maybe something sweet (although kids here all drink amazing amounts of tea, too), but not milk.  I've never seen milk on a restaurant menu here.  So I don't think anyone even got it.
 
What did work?  All the commercials in which the joke was based on either sex or birth control.  That seemed to translate well.  I think the best commercial by far, and judging from everyone else's laughter, they'd agree, was a Belgian commercial, simply becauses the ending was so unexpected.  A man is grocery-shopping with his young son, who keeps putting candy in the cart.  The dad says no, the son puts it back in, the dad says no, the son puts it back in, the dad says no, and then the son begins screaming and yelling and running around and breaking jars, throwing supermarket displays across the aisle.  Meanwhile every customer in the store is staring at this man.  Then the screen blacks out, and a message appears: "Use condoms."  The NHL "hockey makes you tough" commercials, in which men who watch hockey on TV are shown being able to endure increasingly painful ordeals as the season progresses, were also very popular. 
Also most of the ones involving soccer worked okay.
 
Monday was International Women's Day.  It's a huge holiday - professionals don't work, schools are closed.  It's like Valentine's Day and Mother's Day combined, except that men also have to honor their daughters and sisters and co-workers and teachers and aunts and grandmothers and every other woman they know, or else they are officially a cad.  I don't know if it's actually called "International" anymore - most things here just say "Happy 8th of March," "Happy Women's Day," or "Happy Spring Holiday."  It was a Soviet tradition, so they named everything based on the assumption that communists everywhere were celebrating, and eventually, when the whole world became communist, everyone would celebrate.  I think the only non-ex-USSR state that celebrates is some country in Africa - Angola or something.  My host family celebrated by having wine with lunch, and Evgeny did all the cooking and the dishes. 
 
I went out with Allison and Adrianne, and all over the city were couples out taking a walk together, or men alone heading home with flowers and wine.  (What Lera told me about March 8 is funny.  She said, "It's great.  All the men are drunk," and seeing my puzzled expression, quickly added, " - with flowers!")  Lines at the flower shops were a mile long, and they were emptying out fast.  On Srednii Prospekt on Vasilieskii Island, three flower shops opened up last week just for March 8.  At every metro station and market were little babushkas selling mimozy - little, polleny, puff-ball-shaped yellow flowers.  Apparently they always bloom just in time for March 8th, and at no other time of year.  Some random guy we passed on the street said, "S prazdnikom, devchyonki!"  (Happy holiday, girls!)  The restaurant we ate at gave all the women customers free champagne.  And, like all holidays and weekends here, neither traffic nor public transport was nastily crowded.
 
I commented to my host mother that it seems to us American students that Russians have a lot of holidays.  She said Russians say the same thing.
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Anything's possible in Russia.  At least, that's what the Russians tell me.  Maybe they're right.
 
Some newspaper clippings:
"From the children's home - across the border.
The city ZAGS director Galina Bogdanova brings some interesting figures: in the previous year foreigners adopted 481 Peterburg children, but Russians, only 423.  More than any other country new parents were from America - 284.  Also adopting Petersburg children were 68 couples from Italy, 32 from France, 27 from Spain, 19 from Switzerland, and 17 from Finland."
 
This explains why I met so many people in Spain who told me they have a cousin/niece/coworker/friend who'd adopted a Russian child.  This bodes ill for Putin's hopes to increase Russia's population.
 
"Some are married and some are - well...
There are always more married women than married men.  This axiom was again confirmed by the All-Russian Census, the final results of which became known last week (see site www.perepis2002.ru).  50.13 million Russian women declared they were married, but only 36.57 Russian men called themselves married."
First of all, I wonder why this is an axiom.  Does this happen often?  Secondly, how is there a difference of 13.5 million marriages?  Theoretically, a man marries a woman, so for every married man there should be one married woman, no more and no less.  I'm trying to come up with creative solutions for this discrepancy.
1) Bigamy.  This is illegal in Russia, but maybe it happens.  But not so often, I would think.
2) Separations and engagements.  The woman says they are still married, because they have not technically divorced, but the man counts them as divorced already because it's in the works or he plans on calling his lawyer tomorrow.  On the other side, the bride says she's already married, because she will be by the time the census counters receive the form in the mail, but the groom checks "single."  Still...13 million?
3) Death.  Maybe some widows are still counting themselves as married.
4) Mail-order brides.  A woman is married to a man who does not fill out the census, for example, to a man not holding Russian citizenship.  There are a lot of women who marry foreign men, but most of them leave Russia.
5) The Russian census takers bought all of Florida's old butterfly ballots, and a lot of people got confused and checked the wrong box.
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In other news...
 
Putin fired the prime  minister.  Everyone thought he would wait until after the presidential elections, which are next Sunday, March 14.  He said he wanted the country to see how the new government would work before the elections.  (A bit arrogant, but really, no one else could possibly win.)  Some people think he did it to raise interest in the elections.  If fewer than 50% of the voting-age population votes, there has to be a second election, and right now he has so little competition that everyone feels voting is a waste of time.  The doomsayers think he did it because he's autocratical, and is hoping to consolidate power by putting in a politically weak new prime minister he can control more easily.  It is true that the new guy wasn't on anyone's short list - in fact, he was the ambassador to Belgium or something random like that.  Others feel that Fradkov's distance from the Russian political scene is an advantage - he has no ties or political debts to any of the current bad guys, such as big business, the mafia, and Yeltsin's old cronies.
 
A lot of people complain about America's two-party system, but you have to admit that it prevents situations like these, in which everyone thinks someone else would be better, but can't agree on whom, so there are twelve candidates with less than 6% each, and the one no one really wants doesn't even get 50% and yet still wins.  At least in our system of voting for president, if you absolutely hate a particular candidate, voting against him is effective.

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Ty uvazhaesh' menja - pei! You respect me - drink!

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